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In the journey toward true atonement, many of us stall. We procrastinate, sidestep, or delay when what we really need is to lean in. My discussion with our Product Policy Manager surfaced five key sentiments that often underlie that delay. Understanding them helps us move from “I’ll do it later” to “I’ll do it now.”
It’s uncomfortable to point out a wrong — or to be pointed at. There’s a natural discomfort in recognizing imperfection, admitting we’ve hurt someone or ourselves. That awkwardness can cause us to procrastinate under the guise of “I’ll wait for a better time.”
In the lecture series Self‑Improvement: The Basis for Community Development, Farrakhan emphasizes that self-examination and self-correction begin when we awaken the “self-accusing spirit.” But the first step often feels awkward. So we delay.
Tip: Recognize the awkwardness as a signal — not a stop sign. The discomfort is the door.
If we believe we are blameless, then the work of atonement is irrelevant. This sentiment keeps us stuck in defensiveness rather than open to growth. It might sound like: “I don’t need to fix anything because I didn’t do anything wrong.”
Farrakhan reminds us that man is “complete yet incomplete” — meaning our potential is intact, but our state is not perfected. When we deny the wrong, we deny that process of becoming.
Tip: Ask yourself: Is there a truth I haven’t yet admitted because I believe I’m already right?
Avoiding the work of atonement is perhaps the most common. We rationalize: “I’ll deal with it later,” or “It’s not the right time.” But Farrakhan teaches that struggle is ordained by God — growth comes through facing difficulty, not evading it. The more we delay, the heavier the burden becomes; the longer the “wrong” festers.
Tip: Set a deadline for yourself to at least name the issue. Delay lessens power.
Sometimes we don’t resist the work of atonement because of what we did — but because of who is pointing it out. If we dislike or mistrust the messenger, we may dismiss the correction entirely. The sentiment might be: “I won’t listen because I don’t like you.”
Farrakhan’s discourse on self-improvement and community development situates the work of change in the individual’s personal responsibility, not in who delivers the message. When we focus on the messenger instead of the message, we sideline our own transformation.
Tip: Separate the message from the messenger. Listen for the truth, not the ego.
Suspicion is when we wonder: What’s behind this correction? Is it just criticism? Control? Judgment? This sentiment paralyzes us because we fear hidden agendas. We ask: “Why are you pointing this out?” rather than “Should I respond?”
In the Self-Improvement material, Farrakhan stresses that moral awakening requires honesty and courage — a willingness to face one’s own mind and deeds. Suspicion keeps us locked in defensiveness instead of moving toward the light of truth.
Tip: Ask: “Is the concern for me or for us?” If it’s for growth, then suspicion might just be fear in disguise.
When these five sentiments — awkwardness, denial, avoidance, envy toward the messenger, and suspicion — form a barrier, we stall in the atonement process. The result? We become comfortable with our state of unrest. We remain stuck where we are rather than moving where we could be.
But transformation is possible. Farrakhan writes that each study guide in Self-Improvement was designed to “produce self-examination; self-analysis; self-correction; and, to quicken in each of us the self-accusing spirit.” The “self-accusing spirit” is not a condemnatory voice — it’s the inner prompt that says, “You can be better. You can be more.”
When we face the awkwardness, admit the wrong, step into the work, differentiate the messenger from the message, and release suspicion, we open ourselves to the healing of atonement. Not because we’re perfect, but because we’re honest. Not because the process is easy — but because it’s necessary.
If you recognize one or more of these sentiments in yourself, consider this your invitation: Choose one. For example: “In the next 24 hours I will identify one wrong I have denied.” Then act — even if it’s simply naming it. Action breaks the cycle of delay.
Atonement is not for the faint of heart — as we often say — but it is for the humble of spirit. The work begins when we stop postponing our healing and start facing our truth.
